Let’s face it, it’s never really about the destination, it’s all about the journey.
Last week, to truly immerse myself in my grand experiment with the importance and benefits of ritual and routine, I made one of the grandest gestures for myself and purchased and began an 8 day virtual meditation course called ZivaMind.
11 days later, I wanted to do my first check in.
GUYS. Making yourself and what you say you want and need a priority is HARD. Not in the “Poor me, I said I was going to go meditate so I suppose I should go do that. Sorry guys, I’ll see you in a bit.” No. I’m talking about the times where we accidentally sleep in and have to choose between doing what we say we are going to do, aka morning meditation for 15 minutes or putting on makeup before work. Or when the busyness of our daily lives sets in and we aren’t able to make it home before dinner. Which just so happens to be when our second meditation of the day is so we have to do a little improv and quietly meditate at our desk while trying to drown out the gentle tapping and murmur of the office sounds around us. The interrupting calls, the neighbors knocking on our doors, our pets merely wanting our love and attention. The interruptions of our daily lives never really stop.
And believe me, these tiny interruptions of life ALL happened in the span of a week.
However, for me, the hardest part was still getting to the chair and “showing up” for myself time and time again. My mind, body and soul knew exactly what to do. It was smooth sailing upon sitting down. It was just the act of getting there that took a wee bit of positive intention and focus. Needless to say, I can proudly say that I have made it there every. single. time. which to me is pretty exciting.
I’m sure you’ve had your own experiences with this but in mine, showing up hasn’t always been easy. It hasn’t always been fun. And it has sometimes taken loads of hard work.
But the more I practice this simple act of “Showing Up” on a daily basis in all aspects of my life, the less those times happen where I don’t just not show up. I also notice more and more other delicious experiences coming into my experience that truly UPLEVEL my life in every single way. All because of that simple little act of showing up even when it’s hard, I don’t have the time or I don’t want to.
It has also absolutely helped me to start solidifying this act of meditation into both a morning and nighttime ritual. And for me, this feels incredible!
This is the first time in my life where I’ve been able to stick with creating a ritual such as this and have so much positive impact on my life in just a week.
I’ve noticed that I really have been taking the space between an incident that might have upset me before and my reactivity time. 9 times out of 10, it’s really not as bad as we make it out to be.
My emotions haven’t immediately jumped to a 10 when something triggered me when in the past, they used to.
It feels freaking amazing doing something that you say you are going to do.
I’ve also grown to really soak up those 30 minutes a day when it’s just me.
Yes, I definitely still have thoughts come in. But it’s really, truly my time of the morning/evening. My body and mind ease into this gentle, flowing state and let go of the thoughts even when they do come.
I was actually thinking during my time this morning how delicious it feels. How I love savoring those moments when my mind stays on my mantra and everything else fades away. How calm, peaceful and at one I am. If only for those few moments.
Soaking it all up and loving every minute.
However, just like in building any ritual or routine and intentionally creating the space to make it a constant in your life, it takes persistence. It takes patience. It’s takes being okay with having a learning curve and that the idea you have of it probably doesn’t actually exist. The actual act of it is probably going to look and feel quite a bit different from the picture you had before starting. And that's okay. It takes reprioritizing things we thought were priorities. It also takes letting life be fluid and full of change as opposed to fixed.
Life will happen whether we like it or not. It’s how we navigate those situations to include what’s really important to us.
And I wasn’t lying. Even when we say we want things, like knowing and seeing first hand the benefits of a ritual, it can absolutely be hard work putting this into consistent action.
But that’s okay. That’s the beauty of it. We are the makers of our destiny. We are given the opportunity to take radical responsibility and act upon how we want to live our lives and how we want to be. How cool is that?! We get to choose.
There is no right choice. There is no wrong choice. There is only your choice. And your choice is absolutely right.
I leave you with my new favorite quote by Ziva Meditation’s Creator, Emily Fletcher:
“We meditate to get good at life, not to get good at meditation.”
How beautiful and insightful is that?!
Happy Friday and Namaste Friends!
Hugs and High Fives,
You know those moments of synchronicity, like when you're thinking about someone and that exact person calls you at that precise moment? Well that kind of happened with me last week as I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts, The Good Life Project.
I was thinking about how I hadn’t made time to meditate that morning and do my morning ritual and I was just in this terrible, crummy mood that wouldn’t go away all day. And then, out of the blue, this podcast about routine and ritual came on that had me like, “Hey, girl, hey- I’m lookin’ at you.”
I have rituals that I LOVE. I LOVE waking up and thinking about 10 things that I’m grateful for. It instantly boosts my mood and gives me a reason to smile. I LOVE the peace of mind that happens after my morning meditation. I LOVE my time spent working on A Course in Miracles and feeling like I’m connected with something so much larger than myself. I LOVE journaling and mapping out the rest of my day so I don’t feel as overwhelmed and feel like I can accomplish ANYTHING.
Doing all of those things makes me feel so good. It makes my days beautiful, balanced and blissful. It makes my heart and soul soar. So why the eff don’t I commit to doing them fully every single morning and have so much resistance to doing them at all most days? I inevitably feel awful, get uber stressed and anxious, end up taking all the things out on my boyfriend and claiming no responsibility for myself and my actions when I don't. Take last Friday for instance. It felt like part of me wanted to teach the other part a lesson. “Haha, Ali. You think you know what’s best. You think you can boss me around and tell ME what to do. Hooooo boy are YOU wrong.” Muahahahaha
I have this idea in my head that this is what I “should” be doing. That these acts are in and of themselves, “boring”. That they won’t make me happy and that they are a complete and utter waste of time.
*Major Eye Roll*
However, my big thought is, ” What WOULD happen if I committed fully?”
If I had a straight up, "come to jesus talk" moment with my ego mind and sat it down for the down and dirty. “I get it. I see you. I hear you. But I’m not you. You may think you know what’s what but gurrrrrllll, sit yourself down and have yourself a margarita, I can take it from here.”
I’m suuupppper curious to see what would happen if I did make that extra effort and commit to that mere 30 minutes EVERY morning. If I blocked it off in my calendar. Made a Soul Care date with myself.
What if it was better than I could possibly imagine? But I can't imagine. I've never fully committed.
Rituals and routine help to ground us. They help to center us, our energy and our focus. They act as a self soothing mechanism. When sh*t gets too intense, you at least know you have this simple act, whatever it may be, that you do every. single. day. that pacifies your soul and let's you know the world will keep madly spinning on.
These little acts also act as such a reckoning force of self care and self love that you KNOW everything is going to be okay. Somewhere deep down, you just know it.
So today, I put my money where my mouth is. I signed up for Ziva Mind Meditation and I start on Tuesday. *If you've never heard of it, I highly suggest you check it out!
Sometimes it literally takes us shelling out our hard earned nickels and dimes to an external factor to hold us accountable. And I guess for today, for the sake of ritual and my soul, I'm cool with that.
What if it could better than I possibly imagine?
Well, I’ll let you know on May 1st. And that’s a promise.
Hugs and High Fives,